Leaders Have One Job

Oh boy… I’m having one of those days again.

I’m lying in bed, half awake.  Fighting to find an ounce of “give a damn” to take off my sleep mask and face the day.  Face the day that my cluttered mind didn’t want to face since last night.  I tried to clear this clutter.  I meditated with the Headspace app. I even counted down from 1,000 to 850 before I gave myself permission to even explore that sleep was an option. I’ve been in this place before. Today I was waking up in a fantasy land that there wasn’t enough time in the day, my dreams are unrealistic and it wasn’t possible to prove my worth. I carried the baggage of an all-nighter throughout my day that hasn’t even started yet.  I mean seriously, I haven’t even taken my sleep mask off yet – how was my day already doomed?

Lately, I’ve noticed that I’m struggling with being at choice so I expect others to make the choices for me.  In true form, I called upon my husband and asked him to be “coach” instead of “friend”.

“Put me at choice.  Reflect my patterns.  Move me into action.”,  I asked him while still laying in bed as he was trying to squirm away.

We noticed my pattern of always trying to apply my winning strategy.

Listen for what’s needed in order to provide a solution so that I’m seen as valuable.

That is where all of my struggles live – in value.  Every since I was a little girl, my value was always connected to people showing up for me and when disappoint struck – that was all the proof I needed.  I’m not worthy, valuable or important.  I automatically apply it to every moment in my life when I decide to not be at choice.

This dreaded day I woke up to was doomed because I had two people reschedule their commitments the night before.  I was choosing to let it control my entire day starting at 7:00 am.

Leaders have one job to do – CHOOSE.

It was as simple as that and so I did.  I chose to relate to the 2 hours of unscheduled time as a gift the universe offered to reassure me that my dreams are completely possible.  With or without the hustle.  With or without the notoriety.  With or without the abundance of cash flow.  My dreams are possible because I choose to believe they are and my actions are aligned.

So, within my declaration that my dreams are possible because I choose to believe in them, I also have the ability to empower them.

 

Four Ways to Empower My Dreams:

1. Being of service to others immediately creates self-worth
2. Meditating for 10 minutes gives me mindfulness
3. Seeking support and exposing my most vulnerable moments proves that I’m not alone
4. Reviewing my Project Design from the Future plan moves me into action

 

Four Ways to Dis-empower My Dreams: 

1. Staying in bed, not taking a shower or eating breakfast diminishes my self-care validating my worthlessness
2. Relating to breakdowns as a proof of value opens me to inevitable criticism and disappointment
3. Using the perfectionist tool instead of the 80/20 rule
4. Seeking comfort for my misery

 

I get so much life from coaching with my clients! They are my inspiration, reflection and motivation every time we create together.  I see so much of myself in them that it would be unfair to not stand for myself as strongly as I stand for their dreams.

So, as I sit at my desk, staring off into the clouds with the sun shining down on me through the window, I stop and think… how would I have enjoyed this day if I chose to stay in bed with my sleep mask on defeated before the day began.  If my dreams are only possible today, then they have come true.

All because of a conscious choice.

 

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